I’m reading Becoming Us: Loving, Learning and Growing Together by Elly Taylor right now. It’s a book about how becoming parents affects relationships, and it’s about about understanding the changes you feel in yourself, in your partner and in your relationship. I think it’s one of the best relationship books I’ve ever read. It made me feel calmer about my relationship, like the changes we’ve gone through since having a baby together weren’t something “wrong”; they’re part of a bigger pattern of how women and men approach parenting. It made me feel gentler and more accepting of myself and my husband. It made it easier not to take things personally that aren’t done the way I would do them. It helped me see what we both bring to parenting, and it helped me feel how much our son needs both of our approaches.